As politically incorrect as it is to say these days, our society doesn’t appreciate men. We’ve got so caught up in the “women’s liberation” movement, we neglected to train the boys: and the result is a nation of pansy men. It’s sad, but I am manlier than a lot of men I know.

Unfortunately, one of the last places that focused on American manhood is becoming a place of social experiments and adult politics. This week the Boy Scouts announced that they are officially dropping the name “boy” in 2019 and changing their institution to the neutral name of “The Scouts.” This is an effort to allow girls to compete for the highest honor which is not available to them—Eagle Scout. Apparently, we still aren’t gender fluid enough. Everything the boys have the girls want. And in the name of “female equality” we justify erasing a boy’s haven into a gender-neutral zone. Male rights and learning environments are officially non-existent.

We treat boys (and men) like second rate human beings. Yes, the past tells a sexist story but that was the past. We live in the present. We treat them like they aren’t as superior as we women, and yet we tell girls they need to want to “be like a man.” The inconsistency would be laughable if it wasn’t so appalling. The Boy Scout system has worked for over a hundred years, and it has produced boys and girls who benefited from the Scout Law and rigid structure of the Boy/Girl Scout Program. By messing with the fluidity of the Scouts, we give mixed messages about women’s empowerment to young girls. Essentially, we are telling them they aren’t good enough unless they have everything the boys do.

While girls should be offered equal opportunities, and be eligible for every opportunity for success, they already have the Girl Scouts. If girls feel that the system is broken, boring, needs an Eagle Scout rank, or is unfulfilling to them, then these same girls need to show initiative and exercise their female rights to fix their own institution. That’s real life. Real life is full of problems. It’s full of inequality. Life has problems. But teaching a young girl how to fix policies, procedures, and inconsistencies within her own institution will make her a better employee, citizen, and woman in the future. Demanding that the boys fix the institutional glitches within the Girl Scouts is expressing the sentiment that girls can’t fix their own problems. I thought we lived in 2018 where girls are just as good as men, if not 100% superior?

The Boy Scouts is not a lab for adults to make social experiments—it’s a safe place for boys to learn how to be men. Their 12-point law states, “A Scout is Trustworthy, Loyal, Helpful, Friendly, Courteous, Kind, Obedient, Cheerful, Thrifty, Brave, Clean, and Reverent.” We need more men like that. We don’t need to distract boys with girls, social issues, and political gender issues. They get that in school, movies, sports, and everywhere. Thy need a place where they can tune out the world and just be little boys. The Boy Scouts is simply one area where gender fluidity isn’t important. At all!

With an increasing number of gender neutral arenas, boys are finding themselves with less places to escape to learn and play in the way little boys do. This video from PragerU University explains that boys are treated like defective girls in the school room. Across schools statistics show that boys get in more trouble than girls for being restless, rowdy, and boyish. They also show that boy grades are lower because they read and write about things like monsters, battles, Guinness World Records, and Legos. Girls, however, respond to traditional ideals of heartfelt sentiment and Shakespeare. If our society grades little boys against the “good behavior” of little girls, where is the male diversity? If our schools aren’t providing places for boys to learn in their own ways, then we need organizations like the Boy Scouts to provide these environments for them instead.

Ultimately, boys need a place to be held to a standard that isn’t compared to that of a girl. Like steel sharpens steel, boys thrive when they can compete physically and mentally against each other. They need a hands-on environment. They need to compare themselves to noble male figures in order to grow into those same men. They need a place to validate their manliness, and not be distracted by little girls.

And for the last hundred years American boys could retreat to the Boy Scouts.

“In scouting, a boy is encouraged to educate himself instead of being instructed.” -Robert Powell 

The same rule apples for girls. They need the skills, laws, merits, and ideals of the Girl Scouts—but they need to do it without the distraction of disruptive little boys. I believe in equality! But I also believe its not unfair, sexist, or demeaning to learn in gender-like bubbles. Should girls be offered the highest honor of Eagle Scout? Absolutely! Do they have to crash the boys’ camp to do so? I don’t think it’s necessary. Political agendas have no place in the world of children—they have enough to learn as it is.

As a girl, I learned much better when I wasn’t distracted by boys. They are louder, dirtier, make lots of noises, and when you’re a boy-crazy teenager (raises hand) not much gets learned. (Besides, who needs boys to be super cool? *wink face*)

That’s my rant. All I have to say Boys Scouts, is you let me down. Making girls believe that they have to compete in the boys’ camp to experience “ultimately equality” is sexist. Let girls compete with boys for Eagle Scout in their own camp, like girls, and with girls. But you’re not empowering anyone by making your program “fluid and inclusive.” We need manly men and strong girls. But let us learn how to be them in our own ways, without holding us to the same standards as the opposite gender. It’s not fair to the girls, and it’s surely isn’t accepting of male diversity.

–Victoria

P.S.

In memory of the original Boy Scout movement, here is a link to the heartwarming Disney movie, Follow Me, Boys. It’s about a troop of Boy Scouts and the way it shaped a small town of ruffians into stellar citizens. You’ll fall in love and reminisce in the Old American values we used to enjoy!

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4 replies on “Dear Boy Scouts: What About Male Diversity?

  1. I love the point you made on how girls should hold themselves accountable to fix their own problems. I also LOVE the Disney movie, “ Follow Me, Boys”. It’s so good!

  2. As a lifelong Scouter born and raised in Alaska, I’d like to voice some issues with this article if you’ll hear them.

    First and foremost, there are some inaccuracies in regards to how the BSA program will be changing. The organization itself is the Boy Scouts of America. Always has been and will continue to be so. Within that organization is the section (group, department, what have you) that is known as the Boy Scouts. This is the only name that is changing, to be Scouts America. Not a big change, many young men in the organization already call themselves “Scouts.” Now they can still call themselves Scouts.
    The actual change being made now, is that girls will soon be able to form their own troops. They can create an all-new female-only troop, or they can join an existing troop as an all-female section. There is no “co-mingling” or mixed activities, save for formal events and ceremonies. They will partake in the same activities, learn the same skills, but will do so in separate, parallel groups. Venture Crews (another section under the BSA) is a co-ed group and has been since the 90s.

    I’m unsure if this is the assumption based off of various statements in your article, but the Girl Scouts of America and the BSA are not the same organization. What one organization changes in terms of policy does not affect the other. Nobody is demanding that the BSA change their policies to become more inclusive. This change does not teach girls that they can’t solve their problems. This change is providing them with a new way to learn how they can handle their own problems. If you don’t like how something is taught, you find a new way to teach it.

    On a more personal note, this change is not going to “distract boys with girls, social issues, and political gender issues.” The BSA is literally a place that teaches young men HOW to deal with issues, whether they be social, political, religious, or other. You said that the BSA is a safe space to teach young men to be men. I say you’re wrong. The BSA is a place that teaches young men (and soon young women) how to be productive, self-sufficient, confident leaders with a variety of physical and critical thinking skills that can handle every issue and challenge that you’re now saying will be too distracting for them.

    You’re absolutely right though. Gender fluidity has no place in the BSA. There has never been a time where a Scout’s gender, sexual orientation, or stature has ever been important in the Scouting movement. Adults may have made an issue out of it, but as a Scout myself I can tell you that it was all fluff made up by adults for talking points. Whether you’re a guy or a girl, doesn’t make a difference if you’re there to learn the skills to make you into a self-sufficient adult. Also, Follow Me Boys really is a great movie. My troop watches it every year.

    I guess whether you take what I say to heart or not is entirely up to you. This movement is not meant to bring the value of young men down at the expense of raising women up, it’s about helping them to both become even stronger adults with matching skills and knowledge so that when they’re all ready to enter adulthood, they will be able to fend for themselves and make a positive impact around them. Boys will always be distracted by girls and vice versa, that’s being a teenager. But they will have the opportunity to learn to deal with that distraction and move past it to interact with everyone around them in a manner fitting the reputation of the BSA. Don’t worry about “manly men and strong girls.” This is how you make them.

    Best wishes,
    Grady Hopper
    Eagle Scout 2011

    P.S. these are young men, not little boys. If you want to avoid making more pansy men, you start by respecting who they are at this time in their lives.

    1. Thank you so much for replying such a respectful comment! I appreciate it. I’ve had a few nasty comments and it’s nice to have someone acknowledge me like an adult 🙂

      And, Alaska is an awesome place to be a Scout!

      Your comments are very insightful! I was not aware that the structure of the BSA was forming into separate groups like you described. When the news came out that the BSA was changing the name, the general assumption was that they were including the Girls to accommodate the times. Many people believe this. Since social media and news sources were hailing the decision to be more “gender exclusive”, I believed it was true as well. I think that many people are misinformed on the issue and it helped that you described the real goings on. However, My article is still geared towards the reaction (however true or false) that both genders should be mixed in the BSA. I have seen a lot of people pushing for gender fluidity and felt a need to respond to the popular social agendas advocating for gender fluidity. I still think boys need a place that accommodates their learning skills and needs.

      But thank you for the insightful criticism! As a blogger I do appreciate it and welcome a respectful opposing opinion.
      I do see your points and agree with most all of what you say.

      Thank you!

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